Lately I have been hearing a lot about people who are suffering with grief – the grief of losing a loved one through death or divorce or a dream that did not turn into reality. These moments change us, like no other, they make us stop in our tracks and question everything which up to this point we knew to be true.
A while ago I attended David Kessler’s incredible seminar on Grief and the one guidance that I took away is how important it is to allow time to grieve.
In this hectic world of instantaneous gratification, we assume that grief needs to have a short shelf life and that life needs to go back to normal within a few months, but preferably earlier. Yet, if we allow for grief to be shoved into a deep corner of our being, it turns to fake happiness and long term suffering.
It is not our choice to grieve, for our being needs to process love and loss. We need to allow life to rebalance itself, to re-adjust in order to fine-tune values and make decisions about future direction.
Yet it is our choice whether we suffer or acknowledge our grief and allow healing to take place in our hearts.
So HOW TO HEAL A HEART?
Respect your feelings, respect your grief – give yourself time, with no specified end date
Let your emotions be – allow your emotions to be present, allow them to come and go without judgement
Delegate –create space for other people; allow them to cushion the impact of daily tasks
Surround yourself with heart-soothing comforts – a soft blanket, walk on the beach, play with family and friends
Laugh, even if it’s through tears– acknowledge the many blessings that you have, that are still yours that did not disappear. Laughter is an expression of life, of gratitude and healing
Remember – the good times, the bad times, the boring and fun times
Embrace this moment – this moment is your life, cherish it
TO HEAL A HEART MEANS TO FIND PEACE.
To find peace is to acknowledge life for all its blessings, lessons and gifts.
To heal a heart is to acknowledge the love, be honoured by its presence and once again open up to life’s many blessings
ALLOW GRIEF TO HEAL YOUR HEART AND YOUR SOUL TO ILLUMINATE YOUR LIFE.
For further reading about David Kessler’s work on grief go to http://youcanhealyourheart.com/
In love and light,